Day 1: Romance
Welcome to Day 1 of the 7-day Romance & Adventure Challenge!
Today life begins again.
Today you get another opportunity to say a big YES to the life you are really made for-- a life where you get to live each day more in love than the last.
Remember our not-so-secret agenda: To get you to experience more of your hidden wholeness by embracing both your sexual and spiritual energies together.
Sexuality isn’t just about sex (intercourse). And spirituality isn't just about religion. Both of these things are actually about energy.
We invite you to consider this...
Think of your spiritual energy as your capacity to live by your deepest values.
Think of your sexual energy as your capacity to live by your deepest desires.
When we live by our deepest values and desires we experience this beautiful thing called wholeness.
The next 7 days will be about expanding your capacity to live by your deepest values and desires so that you can experience your hidden wholeness and add more tenderness, passion, and love into your life.
Ronnie and I are with you. So is the community of Romance & Adventure Saints.
We’re kicking off this sexy and soulful challenge with something that is so powerful, yet really misunderstood:
Romance is the deepest thing in life, it’s deeper even than reality.
- G.K. Chesterton
What the heck is this man talking about? Do you feel romance as the bedrock of your existence?
Well, it is. In the words of an ancient tantric text,
“Every particle of creation at every moment is engaged in lovemaking.”
(Pretty hot, no?)
The truth is Love is the mysterious thing holding the whole universe together.
It’s the foundation of our spirituality and our sexuality.
There is a good reason we all are so crazy about love; Love is it.
Love is at the heart of everything we are seeking.
Love is home.
But what we don’t realize, is that we are these particles actively engaged in lovemaking; we are love.
And being who we are, which is love, romance could be the most natural way of engaging with the world!
So why isn’t it? Why aren’t we feeling the love?
There is lots we could blame here (social messaging, childhood baggage, relationship wounds, suffering of all kinds) but suffice it to say...
Romance is a trigger word for a lot of people. When we hear the word romance we think of crappy cards and cliched gestures of affection.
We don’t normally think of our relationship with the universe, the laundry, or how we care for our body and mind.
Remember we told you this challenge was about learning how to integrate our spirituality with our sexuality, so get ready for a powerful redefinition of ROMANCE.
In the Cecil world, we define Romance as:
Everything we do in the name of love.
This (re)definition has changed how we experience our lives, making romance waymore natural.
What we love about this definition is that it allows us to tap into the romance that is the bedrock of all existence, and actively participate with it. (NO ONE IS DISQUALIFIED).
Love is an energy, and romance is the intentional quality we bring to that energy.
Do Something Ordinary in the Name of Love
Since true romance is doing things (anything) in the name of love, that’s what we are going to consciously do today...
Choose one of your normal everyday task you usually do on autopilot andinfuse it with the patience, kindness, attentiveness and devotion of one who is in love.
Notice what shifts.
What happens to your confidence level when you dress in the name of love? Notice how your experience as a mother softens when you wipe down the table in the name of love instead of resentment for the constant mess? How do you feel in your body when you kiss your partner in the name of love instead of obligation?
The more you can infuse your ordinary tasks with patience, kindness, attentiveness and devotion, the more romantic your life will begin to feel.
Isn’t it freeing to know you don’t have to buy anything or change anything in your life to start experiencing more of what you want?
All it takes is a gentle nudge to remember what is true.
You are love, and when you do what you do in the name of love, you naturally feel more alive, connected, whole. Spiritually and sexually.
Need more quotable inspiration to get in the mood for this new take on ROMANCE?
“The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return.” Eden Abhez
“Do small things with great love.” Mother Teresa
“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.” Oscar Wilde
“Let all things you do be done in love.” 1 Corinthians 16:14
Remember: Post your completed challenge (ideas: take a photo of something you did/are doing in the name of love) to facebook or instagram with @romanceandadventure + #RAChallenge to be entered to win the giveaways (Mamamala necklace ($113 value) Imaginary Authors perfume ($95 value) and more!), connect with the community of R&A Saints, and keep yourself motivated!
You are MADE to be in love.
Feeling full of romance today,
P.S. This is a community of saints, and in this beloved community there is only support and encouragement. What a wonderful thing to lay down the urge to compete or compare! Invite your friends and sisters to join this challenge with you. They can join anytime and it will make your life that much richer with true romance and meaningful adventure because you’ll have someone close to you to talk about it with! Send them here: romanceandadventure.com/challenge.