Episode 14: Sexy Sex


Episode 14: Sexy Sex

April 17, 2017

Sex is sexy, but sexy sex is even sexier.

Think back to the last time you had sex? What was it like? Was it great, was it just ok or was it a minor disaster

Many couples, who really really love each other aren’t feeling fulfilled in the bedroom. Something feels off or lacking. There is more suffering than joy.  Most cases this isn’t because they don’t belong together, or there is something fundamentally wrong with either partner, but because they have never been taught what sexual well-being and a fulfilling sex life, i.e. sexy sex, could look like.

What is Sexy Sexy?

Sexy Sex is the fullness of Love & Turn-On, when your 5 senses are activated and you then experience the spiritual connection.

It’s what we all really want and we can’t quite articulate, but know it when you have it.

It’s when you’ve got the basics-- safety, love and belonging and it’s amplified by an erotic energy. “Carnality feels welcome and safe.” There is no guilt or shame or fear.

Everything belongs. It’s all in the light. Naughtiness in the light is FUN and JOY.


“The tragedy of sexual intercourse is the perpetual virginity of the soul." ~William B. Yeats

Sexy Sex is sex where you truly open up emotionally and sexually to your partner and receive love and safety and belonging from him and yourself.

Questions to know if you are having Sexy Sex

- Do you feel energized, uplifted and happy?

- Do you feel calm, centred and grounded, like you’ve become more of your true, authentic self?

- Do you feel more excited confident, like more is possible in your future than you could see before?

"Sex is always about emotions. Good sex is about free emotions; bad sex is about blocked emotions." ~Deepak Chopra

Quick wins for you regarding Sexy Sex?

-Listen to this podcast with your spouse. It will naturally prompt new conversations. You don’t have to take responsibility for awkward conversations, we'll start them for you!

-Get excited about taking your sex life on as a worthwhile endeavor, journey, and adventure that is full of mystery, risk, and meaning.

-Put intimacy on the calendar. The goal is connection, not orgasm. The goal is closeness, not penetration. 

Episode 11: The Intentional Year

In this episode you'll hear our wins and losses from 2016. Ironically, one of our previous episodes was on how we won financially, which allowed us to go to Europe. In a horrible twist, money was also one of our biggest defeats!

Also hear a hearfelt alopogy from Ron to Morgan about not getting her a birthday card last year. 

How we're already winning again with our money in 2017 and consistency and intentionality are the themes we carry into 2017. 

Proverbs 8:22-31

Links from the show: 


We did a lot of research on how to get into investing (small-ish amounts). This is a brand new world to us. We were on the fence between, Acorns, Wealthfront, but finally landed on Betterment and Digit.

More stuff we referred to in this show:

Sophia Sessions!

Come on a muy, muy romantico get away with us in sunny Mexico!


Want to know our 12 Simple Practices for Deeper Connection and a Beautiful, Happy Life? We call it the R&A Roadmap...You can Grab it for free below!

Take a sneak peak...

Episode 10: Honeymoon Disaster

We sit down with our friends Matt and Laura Arbo who are brave enough to recount their honeymoon disaster. 

This kind of story is one we hear a lot...

It usually goes like this, "I was a good christian kid, I waited to have sex until marriage, and it was a disaster!"

Matt and Laura go into glory (glorious) detail of everything that went wrong on their wedding night and into their honeymoon. Including how the FedEx man almost walked in on their romantic, but not very private honeymoon airbnb.

No story would be great without a redemptive ending! They also share their secrets that brought them from awkward and painful to fun and enjoyable!

In this episode you also learn:

  • Why rose pedals on a bed isn't as sexy as you would think
  • How the cultural view of sex is only tied to the male orgasm
  • How preparing for great sex is a must
  • How a husbands lead is critical in making sex fantastic- (stay to the end, Matt really shares some great stuff about this)

We're so grateful to hear and share their story. Go follow them on instagram and let them know how much you appreciate them too. 

Matt on Instragram

Laura on Instagram


Episode 9: Fear

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Is fear holding you back? Fear keeps us from making progress and from going forward. It keeps us frozen and buried in shame. In this episode we talk about how we made the break from fear and get traction. Plus we resurrect Sexy Tuxedo Jesus and catch you up a little on what’s new with us.


1) What one thing are you afraid of right now in this moment of your life?

2) What is the one thing you are going to do to move through that fear?

3) What's your normal reaction when facing fear?

4) How do you want to live differently in 2017?